How to Find Happiness Even When It’s Tough

by Stacy Menzies
Happy Fix, Inc.

Happy Fix was built to celebrate the great in life because Happy Feels Good. One of our goals is to help people make a conscious decision to stop negative thinking and to populate their world with things that make them happy -- activities, experiences, friendships, love and memories. While we acknowledge that there are situations beyond our control, it is our reaction to those events and situations that dictate the outcomes. It’s never easy when something truly difficult happens to you, especially when that something is a major event with a huge impact on people’s lives. It’s tough to plow forward during these times and try to greet negative situations with a positive reaction.

One of the things difficult situations provide us with is the opportunity to pause, reflect, and evaluate where we are and where we are going.  Here are some takeaways from recent events that I’ve been thinking about:

1. Relationships are everything -- In this world where we are constantly striving for more, don’t let your relationships take a back seat.  Call your mom, dad, friends or siblings more frequently. Send a card to somebody who is not expecting it.   Make time to get together with the people you love.  Eat at the dinner table.  Go for a hike.  Celebrate what’s great together.

2. Life is much too short to be unhappy -- Whether you are in a job that you don’t love or there are things in your life that need to change, value yourself enough to make hard choices and prioritize your happiness.  Don’t put things off due to fear of failure or what other people will think of you; you never know how much time you will have to make necessary changes.  Embrace them knowing that change is inevitable and you can either take control of your life or leave it in the hands of others.

3. Don’t delay experiences -- Whenever I see a friend or neighbor at the grocery store or on a walk, we usually end the conversation by saying “We really need to get together” and then never follow-through.  From now on, I’m going to be more deliberate in my invitations, instead of being so nebulous.  Make the effort.  Set a date.  If there is something you want to do, make a plan and do it.  You don’t know whether or not you will have that chance again.

4. True happiness is shared with others -- Happiness is one of those things that you can’t contain.  If you have a kind word for others, share it. Leave people feeling better than you did when you first ran into them.  Share your happiness with others, always; invite them into your optimistic world and let them live there for a while.  Make it a goal every morning, to positively impact the lives of those you come in contact with.  Positive energy begets positive energy.

5. Love generously, easily and out loud -- I was lucky enough to be brought up in a family that does this constantly.  We hug.  We kiss.  We say “I love you,” with abandon.  As a result,  I never leave the house without telling everybody who’s in it that I love them.  As my sons can attest, even if they are in the shower I yell it to them and wait for a response.  I try not to end a phone call without telling the friend or family member that I love them.  Like happiness, love is meant to be shared with others and always makes this world a happier place.

6. The "why" doesn’t matter -- When bad things happen, a lot of people’s reaction  is “Why?”  Recently, I had a revelation: the "why" doesn’t matter unless it’s something you have the power to change.  The why may grant us a measure of peace which is good, but it doesn’t change what happened.  You can torture yourself with the why.  The reality is we may never know.  It is what it is, our new normal and we must move forward, as hard as that is.

Every day you wake up, you have the opportunity to get everything you can out of this life and leave the world a better place than when you found it. Personally, I hope to do that by having Happy Fix be a constant reminder to celebrate the  great in life and to help others do the same.

Stacy Menzies is President of Happy Fix®, a North Carolina-based positive lifestyle company helping people celebrate what's great because happy feels good. Happy Fix products are designed to be continual reminders that positive thinking can improve your life. For more information visit